One thing I have learnt through reading and (occasionally) contributing to this blog is that it's much easier to achieve SOMETHING - maybe not a lot - but some small success if I don't set any expectations or goals for myself.
Being in a wheelchair I can't rely on walking and work-outs to help me along, though I'm sure they would. What I eat and, more importantly, when I eat it really matters to me.
I have learnt not to mind too much if the scales stay the same for ages. If I don't lose any weight for weeks I know there could be 3 reasons. The first would be if I forgot the golden rule about eating only when I'm hungry. The second would be eating beyond being pleasantly satisfied. The third would be that I am where I am meant to be for now. The only time I really do a double-take is if the scales go UP.
I stressed about my weight for years and yo-yo dieted all my life and all because I was always trying to fit into a pattern dictated by other people. Now I do it only for me and I'm not in competition with anyone. Now, though I know I ought to weigh less, I am OK with me. Now I understand that we only fail in the eyes of others.
Therefore there is no such thing as failure.